Parents in nurturing Children
The children are dependent upon the family, friends, teachers, and society to learn good or bad things. They are innocent. The primary duty of parents is to look after and inculcate good values and make them successful.
"In childhood whatever we learn, that make our characters for which we are be known in the society. It's very difficult to change habits. Therefore the children require more focus of parents to move in right direction".
During the times of lockdown, the schools were closed and most of the time of children spent with the parents because the parents were also not going to their duties in the offices / shops / businesses. The nature forced parents to spare quality time for the children, and most of the parents learned how to involve the children in various creative activities without giving them school books to learn. Earlier, when there was no lockdown, it was not possible to devote more time for the children.
The word antakshari and the blocks game were used to improve the creativity of the children.
Whenever a child grows he
usually does work as per his choice and the work which is hard in nature, is
performed either by the parents or the work not done. The nature of
a child for not taking the hard work done by himself; creates laziness and that
laziness performs great role in his life. He starts fear of doing hard work and
due to undue favour of parents, such laziness increases. How to reduce
laziness, that becomes a challenge? The parents hope from child to be succeed
but at the same time, the ways for self-growth are also not provided. What are
the solutions and how parents and mentors can work to make a lazy person work
to grow professionally?
Inspiring to do instead of wrong work:
The children should be
inspired to do their work themselves even if they are doing wrong work. In
case, they are not inspired, they will start getting their work done from the
parents or friends and such habit will make them dependent. Therefore, it is
must neither to do their work nor make them get their work done from the
friends instead of this, inspire them to get their work themselves. In case,
their start weeping or it becomes hard to make them work themselves, it is must
to inspire and motivate. For this purpose, they may be offered any monetary or
non-monetary reward but be careful, they should not be made habitual of taking
such rewards for each work.
Reduce and remove the Fear of failure:
Most of the children even
after being grown, feel fear of failure. It is usual and the fear of failure
can be settled only with practising the work again and again. It is well
popular proverb, “Practice makes a man perfect” and it should be adopted to
deal fear of failure. The fear of failure also creates negativity and due to
such negativity sometimes chances of being failure increased to a great extent.
The practice of doing a work again and again develops the confidence and the
fear of failure and negativity both are settled. It is the duty of parents to
provide them opportunity and enough time to practice the things, the children
are fear of.
Developing positive attitude:
It is must to encourage
children whenever they are confident of doing things right. It will develop
their positive attitude and they will perform the things with passion. Never
doubt upon them and make them fear of doing anything you think they cannot.
However, at the same time it is must to supervise their activities but not by
restricting them to act positively. In case, any work is performed in
undesirable manner, it is must to handle them with care because children are
less habitual to listen. In such cases, it is must to tell them stories to
inspire for doing right things in right manner.
Inculcate habit of doing hard work:
The children should be
provided hard work to do. In starting, it is must to develop the habit to
perform the tasks and self-learning from each task. They should be trained to
learn from the things by inspiring and motivating them. Thereafter, the work
should be increased and start giving more motivational support so that they
become confident of doing hard work to get everything at their own. It will
also develop their positive attitude towards getting the things done through
hard work instead of exploring shortcut methods of doing the things.
एक छोटी सी कहानी
कभी किसी पंछी को देखा है? जब उसे अंडे देने होते है तो वो सर्वप्रथम एक स्थान खोजता है। एक स्थान जो वर्षा, धूप, शत्रुओं से सुरक्षित हो फिर वो अपना घोंसला बनाता है फिर अंडे देता है और फिर जब उन अण्डों से नन्हीं संतानें निकल आती है तो उन्हें भोजन देता है, उनकी सुरक्षा करता है परन्तु जब उनके पंख निकल आये तो ना उन्हें भोजन देती है ना ही उन्हें घोंसला बनाना सिखाती है।
केवल एक ही कला सिखाती है बस फिर वो नन्हीं संतानें उड़ने की कला सीख कर अपना भोजन लाना सीख जाते है स्वयं घोंसला बनाना सीख जाते है और हम मनुष्य क्या करते है?
संतान के बड़े होने के पश्चात भी उनकी चिंता में सूखते है, प्रयास करते है कि उनके लिए घर बना सके। संतान को और भी शक्तिशाली बनाने के स्थान पर पंगु कर जाते है।
जीवन में वही कीजिये जो एक पंछी करता है अपनी संतान को उड़ने की कला सिखाइये, संस्कार दीजिये और एक समय के पश्चात उसे स्वयं अपना आकाश चुनने को मुक्त कर दीजिये।
A small story
Ever seen a bird? When she has to lay eggs, she firstly finds a place that is protected from rain, sun, enemies; then builds its nest, then lays eggs and then feeds them. After few time, when the babies come out of those eggs, she trains them to fly. Thereafter, their wings come out and the bird mother stops to feed them and not teaches them to make their own nest.
Only one art is taught that the art of flying and make them learn to bring their own food, they themselves learn to nest. What do we humans do?
Even after the children grow up, we worry to build a house for them. Instead of making the children more powerful, we feed forever.
Shouldn't we do the same in life as a bird, teach our children the art of flying, give moral values and art of facing challenges of life, after a time, let the children be free to choose their own sky.
Never demoralize the children:
The children sometimes
demand higher rewards for doing work and sometimes become lazy in performing
their duties. The parents should never demoralize the children by stating the
examples of other children doing work at time. The parents should never
appreciate others to make children feel guilty. Then what to do when a child is
not doing work in desired manner? Here counselling work better than making them
demoralized. Ask the children why they are not doing work and try to know their
problem first. They may hesitate to state the problem and even sometimes unable
to express their problems; in such case it is must to observe their problems
and come with a solution to the problems. Demoralizing children and
appreciating others to make them feel guilt; leads to creation of negative
attitude and they start thinking negatively with a doubt upon their abilities. This
hinders their professional growth.
Reduce their hesitation by developing social skills:
The children are usually
remained stuck in doing school work and then home work; thereafter sleep to
wake up early morning. Such schedule never provides them opportunity to learn
the social skills. In holidays, it is the duty of parents to guide the children
and inculcate social values to express their thoughts, speak confidently, to
reduce their hesitation in speaking and expressing their problems. Either
company them by becoming child with them or make them have a company of good
friends to grow. Always be attentive that they should not have company of bad
children and it they have, either try to break such company or try to inculcate
values in such bad friends so that your child not affected from them.
Inculcating leadership and team building habits:
The children at the time
of their play or game activities should be instructed to frame teams while
doing the tasks of play. It is must to supervise and instruct them at least
once a week so that they got opportunity to copy you in doing their activities.
Never force them to stay separate in performing their play or game activities
indeed inspire them to build teams and they do the desired tasks. It will make
them either to lead others or cooperate others to get success. Both habits will
inculcate leadership and team building skills. The children may also be
provided some work to perform and give them a target for getting the desired
reward.
Group activities to reduce hesitation of public speaking:
The children should play
in groups by making a monitor or leader. Further, they should also be provided
opportunity to address in the group and speak confidently in each role they are
playing. The group activities reduce the hesitation and their fear of speaking confidently
also removed to a great extent. Instruct children to maintain eyes contact at
the time of speaking or discussing with them. In case, any child is not making
the eyes contact, then he requires more attention and it is must to give more
activities to him for reducing his hesitation.
Fix time of using mobiles, computers and other gadgets:
The children are being
addicted of using electronic things and it also affect their health very
adversely. The parents should fix the time of using such electronic things and
supervise that they are using it for good purposes and not getting bad company through
using such means of communication. The Facebook friends, the ideas shared on
electronic devices also affect significantly in changing the thought process of
children, therefore, it is must to ensure that the children are not being addicted
of such electronic things.
True Fact:
खुद में झाकने के लिए जिगर चाहिए जनाब, दूसरों में बुराई बताने में तो हर शख्स माहिर होता है..
It's very easy to find faults in others, the real strength is to identify bad evils in self and leave the vices.
A small story on morality in Children:
This is about an incident, a car came in the market and in the car, a lady Seema asked her daughter Ravina to go outside and purchase vegetables. Ravina went outside to a shop and asked to give vegetables. After taking vegetables, she asked price. The shopkeeper Ramesh told to give Rs. 40. Ravina threw a note of Rs. 100 and come back in the car.
After sitting in the car when the car started to move, suddenly a small girl Manisha knocked the mirror of the car. Manisha handed over Rs. 60 and politely told that it was remaining out of the amount of Rs. 100 paid for buying vegetables. Seema sitting inside the car told Manisha to keep the money and no need to pay back. But Manisha politely replied that the Rs. 60 are remaining and it belongs to Ravina who paid Rs. 100 instead of Rs. 40.
Manisha with folded hands, returned to shop of her father. Seema impressed from the behavior of Manisha and went to the shop of Ramesh, who was selling vegetables. After looking at Seema, Ramesh feared and asked his daughter Manisha whether she returned the money Rs. 60 with respect or not. Manisha said, "Papa Ji, I know and remember the moral values you put in me that never insult others, always talk with respect and respect elders. Papa Ji, now I have to go to school for study, I will come back in afternoon, kindly allow me."
Seema was feeling ashamed on the behavior of Ravina after looking at the polite behavior and moral values of Manisha.
The moral of this incident is that the parents should inculcate moral values instead of giving freedom to their children. Make children respect humanity, brotherhood, civilization, good conduct, sweetness in speech etc.
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